With a world now full of unlimited options, choices and opportunity, does that make decisions harder? It certainly can. If you can now have anything, how do you choose? It can drive people crazy. Think of it this way. You have $10,000 that you just won in a contest. Where do you spend it? Do you save it? Limitless ideas but not enough for unlimited ideas. This is your wedding. You have as much control as you've ever had. Any date of the year. Any kind of food, color, dress, style ... it can be almost overwhelming but in a good way, because you hold that control.
Ok, take a breath. Like anything in life it's best to step back and relax. There's no rush. Even if there IS a rush to get married, an hour of your life won't hurt. Here are 4 tips for you that can help with a decision:
1) Set priorities - You've already chosen your spouse, so the rest is gravy right? For some. What's the most important thing to you though? A BIG wedding? The Church or not a church but a location? The guest list? The budget? Whatever your top fear or concern is, put them in order of priority and address the biggest ones first. By the time you get to the bottom of the list, you'll be a pro at making the decision.
2) Time - Create time for yourself to dedicate to what you want. It's ok to say "I need this hour for me" to sit back with some good music, maybe a candle and write it all down. You'll be happy you did and might surprise yourself with ideas.
3) Delegate - This might be the toughest job for any bride or groom. You control every step but it doesn't mean you have to do all of the legwork. Friends may want to help, and you may want them or not. They DO know you well so have them get a caterer list together for you, or local florists. You'll still make the final decision but they can take some stress off the table. And if all else fails, ask your venue. Venues should all have preferred vendors they can recommend for you to talk to. You'll make the final decision, but let others help you with leg work.
4) Enjoy it - I know, that sounds crazy and easy to say but c'mon. This is the day you've had dreams about since you were small ... and (hopefully) the only one you'll ever have. Enjoy the process. Try the cakes. Taste the caterer's samples. Watch YouTube videos of weddings and borrow ideas to make your own. This day is far too important to stress over. You want to look back and smile about the process. It is exactly what you'll make it. Again you control it.
So this year when you sit down to enjoy some Turkey and share that ring with family, give thanks that you will have an amazing day, that you'll have complete control, and that you have a great life. You have love and your day to demonstrate and display that to the world should never cause you stress.
Arielle Barker (Current)